Relationships are hard. Even the good ones. Even when you love each other. Even when you're committed to making it work. Getting two separate bodies of matter to agree all the time is going to be hard. We’re going to run into each other some times.

Maybe you keep having the same fight over and over, just with different details. Maybe you've drifted apart and don't know how to find each other again. Maybe one or both of you is exhausted from trying to be heard, to be understood, to feel like you matter. Maybe the connection that used to feel easy now feels like work, or worse, it feels impossible.

Here's what I know: Most relationship struggles aren't about choosing the wrong person. They're about nervous systems that are out of sync, unhealed wounds that keep getting triggered, and communication patterns that create disconnection instead of closeness. Two people trying their best but missing each other in the process.

I work with couples using a trauma-informed, neurodivergent-affirming, somatic approach. We don't just talk about your problems, we work with your nervous systems, your attachment patterns, and your bodies' responses to conflict and connection. We help you understand not just what you're fighting about, but why these patterns keep happening and how to shift them.

In our work together, we focus on helping both nervous systems feel safe enough to come back online. We slow down the conflict cycle so you can see what's actually happening beneath the surface. We work with regulation, not just communication. We help you recognize when you're reacting from old wounds versus responding to what's actually happening now. We rebuild curiosity, grace, and the ability to repair when things go wrong.

I've completed extensive training in couples therapy, including specialization in ADHD couples therapy through the Melissa Orlov program and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). If one or both of you has ADHD, I understand the unique dynamics that creates.

You don't have to keep struggling alone. Relationships can heal. Patterns can change. You can find each other again.